I’m not sure how I’m holding up.

Life is amazing. It’s almost April and the year is going by so quickly. So, how are you holding up? Me, I’ve had a few times this year already I felt like I was losing. But, as I’m learning you just roll with the punches and keep going. My daughter is graduating in May, and I’m not really sure how I’m doing. Helping her plan for the future had been a long haul and some days I’m just not sure how I’m holding up.

I know there are days you probably also want to give up, throw in the towel, cry over spilt milk, you feel like you will never tackle that mound of laundry or that pile of dirty dishes in the sink. Flat tire, unpaid bills, sick children, strained back, and the list goes on. Life goes by so quickly and looking back time has flown. Have you ever seen that movie Frozen? If you have young daughters of any age, the answer is probably yes. Elsa and her sister go through a great deal of trials which they have to Let Go.

I love the perspective about letting things go.  One thing I’ve learned is that you can either accept things or try to wiggle your way out of a situation, but if it’s God’s will for your life there is nothing you can do. Nothing will keep you from the destiny that Jesus has for your life. Nothing.

We have this discussion in our home regards to college after high school, and there are mixed emotions. I went to college, my husband went to college, my older son graduated from a University, but my daughter is struggling with what she wants to do after high school. She does want to attend college, however she is struggling to narrow down a field of study. I have told her that God has a plan for her life and if she holds onto that she can never go wrong. She has time to think about it and not everyone knows the first day on campus.

As a parent, its tough to see our children feel lost or wander. We want to provide them with all the answers in life and prepare them to go in any direction that they feel they want to go.  I pray everyday that God would allow me to be the best mother that I know she needs and He has to take care of everything else. We honestly aren’t directing anything if we think about it, this is Gods play and we are just the actors. He walks before us and I know he is is preparing her path in this life. It is amazing to see her growth spiritually and emotionally over the last few years.

Letting go is something I’m working on daily. Letting go of the past, present, and things of the future that God would have me to let go of. Its difficult at times however I have to remember that he is in control and has all things planned for the good of his people who love him.

I’m blown away by the vastness of his great love for me and my family. Looking back we have never been without and everything we have, we owe it all to Jesus. I teach my children to understand that they are nothing without him and always seek His way for their life. As we do this, nothing can separate from the love and plans that he has for us. 

So mommas, there will be a time that your daughters will be off to college as well or on another adventure that will lead them into another chapter of their lives. Pray for them. Now and forever. That they may always keep Jesus first and encourage the people in their lives to do the same. Talk with them and let them know that no matter what direction they choose you will always love them and support them.

Growing up, I never received the support form my mother that I show toward my children. She was a single mother sometimes working two jobs and was always tired. I was left home a lot, to fend for myself, take care of my sister who is 9 years younger than I, and even help prepare dinner for the family. I remember those days well. They were rough and honestly when I tell my children how I was raised they have a hard time believing me. Its hard for mu children to understand that I needed to be so responsible for all of that at the tender age of 12. My life growing up brought many challenges for sure, but I wouldn’t change them because I learned so much.

As a result, I became that mom who said I never wanted to raise my children the way I was raised. I want to provide them with more support than I was given. I want to show them that a working mother can still be there for her children and maintain a household.  I want to instill in them the value of working hard and family without sacrificing family values. These things are very important to me as a woman, mother, and as a Christian foremost. (I must add here that I am not against chores and helping around the house.)

I have a few friends who have been through this process of letting go of their children as they grow up and boy have they given me lots of support. A quick phone call can give me a weeks worth of information and guidance. I’m so thankful for them during this season in my life. Do you have a support team you can lean on when times get rough? I pray you do.

Reading my daily bible this morning, I came across this verse

Psalms 16:11

You will show me the path of life,

in your presence is fullness of joy;

at your right hand are pleasures for evermore. 

In His presence is fullness of joy. This really spoke to me and I cried when I read this. In His presence. Its amazing the way Gods word can speak to you. Just one sentence, one word, can have a profound meaning. It also spoke to me because its what I needed to hear at that particular time.

It gave me such security and I felt as though Jesus was looking down and speaking right to me. He was. Don’t worry Tyra, I will take care of your daughter as I have taken care of you. Thank you Lord!

Today, my wish is that we can support each other in prayer. You are not alone.



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