"Inspiration, motivation, and finding your true worth through Jesus Christ" Thu, 26 Oct 2017 14:52:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 32 32 To the mother who needs encouragement, you are not alone. Thu, 26 Oct 2017 14:52:45 +0000

There are several times when I have felt like I just couldn’t win no matter what I did. Running late in the morning, off to a bad start, yelling at the kids, wishing that I could be that sweet voiced mother even though I wanted to scream. But, what I have learned is that I can.

Have any of you felt this way?  Its a hard place to be. You want so bad to change and feel almost like a failure when it doesn’t come as fast as you want it to.

Let me encourage you momma, that God is capable of doing so many things greater and bigger than you can even imagine. That right there gives me so much peace because I know that he who started a good work in each of us will finish what he started. (Philippians 1:6)  Do you need encouragement today?

If you have social media, then you know that most of what people post is only a brief glimpse into what others want you to see. The whole story unfolds off screen and some how all the bad parts get edited out. I know this and yet still compare my living room being as tidy as the next mother, the type of diners another mother prepares and say, if only I could make those types of meals. If her Hair and makeup just right, all the way down to if her kids are all neat and properly dressed. You’ve heard the saying, Comparison steals your joy, I believe this. Can you relate? As a result my time on social media has drastically reduced maintaining my focus on being who God created me to be.

Let me add, it’s human nature to want to fit in and stand out, There have been several times that God has spoken to me “You are enough.” God has designed each of us perfectly like an artist using a paintbrush. We are HIS Masterpiece. He crafted us so specifically and to say that He didn’t would be saying God makes mistakes. That, my sister, we know he doesn’t do.

So, I have learned to accept his plan for MY life. Any time I feel I need to scroll like I’m looking for some kind of acceptance, I remember who designed me, why he designed me (for his purpose) and that I was created in His image. I want to encourage you today to do the same. Each day is different, its new, new beginnings, a do-over. Keep your eyes looking forward and do not dwell on yesterday thinking how bad it may have been.

My prayer is that if I can encourage just one other mother out there that may be struggling.

For we are Gods masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:10

I designed tees/tanks that says Love Others Always on it and I get so many compliments. It’s also a great conversation started because some honestly don’t know how to love others. I explain to them that each and every one of us has been gifted with life, God has created us just the way he wants us to be, we all bleed the same, and our lives should reflect that we are sons and daughters of Jesus Christ. Spreading more love and showing love toward others is such a selfless act. I like to encourage my kiddos with this same message as they head out the door to school each day. “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle.”

On another note, when this year started, I had a great notion that I would complete the Bible in a year from cover to cover. Ask me how I’m doing and I’m afraid to say, (I have fallen behind). I’m not beating myself up over it just reassessing my goal because I will do it. Seasons of life change and I want you to know that in each season comes different goals. If we took each season and applied last seasons priorities, we will feel overloaded and frustrated. That’s why I’m telling you as life changes we must re-evaluate our priorities. Kids age, we encounter new situations of importance, job change, a move, a new baby, an illness. Everything can not be #1, #2, or even #3 on our daily to-do lists. Learning to say no to things of less importance to say yes to things that need more attention (I’m working on this). It can be a struggle. Do what you can little by little. God knows what is going on inside your heart. Pray and ask him to guide you to make better use of your time and to spend your days doing what is pleasing to him. And… don’t be so hard on yourself. Love yourself, take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. As mothers, we need to be the best we can for ourselves and our families. Reading the Bible in a year may not be your ultimate goal, but whatever it is for you, know that anything is possible. I pray for your strength today, tomorrow is another day.

“Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.” 

1 Timothy 4:7-8

Leave me a comment or share a time in your life when someone else encouraged you or you encouraged someone else.  I love reading these stories.

Your sister, Tyra

P.S. more info on the Love Others Always tees/tanks check out my store.


Girl, you gotta get up! Fri, 01 Sep 2017 21:13:00 +0000

Hey, I took a few weeks of and it felt so good. If you follow me on social media you can see what I’ve been up to this summer such as summer vacation and my business, but other than that, God is good.

So, I titled this blog, You gotta get up, because I have to be honest. Sometimes I need to be my own cheerleader and this is exactly what I tell myself. Ladies, have you ever felt like everything in life is just weighing on you and if the wind blows just right, it could blow you over. Lets talk…

My husband and I took a very much needed vacation this summer and it was so refreshing. You can go to my Instagram and see those if you’d like. We visited many places I’ve never been to, ate at so many different restaurants, and took in so many sights. Getting up and going whenever we wanted to was just a relief. Okay, I’ll say we did miss the kids but just the two of us was something we’ve never done. If you are married and have children, I highly recommend a little getaway just you and the hubby because its good for the soul. You will thank me later.

After we got back, I knew things had to get back to the normal sometime right? Preferably later than sooner, with latte in hand, sitting in my rocking chair, and gazing out over an open field of daisies. Oh, wait I’m dreaming, I wish. Ha.

I started thinking about early mornings again, lunches, washes loads of laundry on a schedule rather than when I wanted to, homework, band concerts, basketball practice, meeting teachers, PTO, and the list goes on. What was wrong with me. Why is this year any different than any other I thought to myself? Well, my daughter graduated in May and started beauty school this month so that was one less trip I’d have to make, but not really since she still didn’t have her own car. It was only the end of July and I was already thinking of what lied ahead.

Really, I just stopped and prayed Lord I know that you got this and I have nothing to fear. But, I’m human and I still do fear. I know that this year was going to be a great year for my boys starting the 8th grade. Yay!! My way of getting myself excited.

How many of you feel overwhelmed by the thought of all of this, plus working? I am a work from home mother and still have so much on my plate and there are days I want to skip all of that and just chill and watch Netflix. Have you seen that shirt some are wearing, Netflix and Chill. I guess referring to the weekend, but I was referring to a week of this. Okay, not really.

Ladies, we gotta get up! Stop believing the lies that satan is trying to tell us that we aren’t worthy. We are lazy. We are overweight. We are not pretty enough without makeup. We are not qualified for that job. We are not committed to our relationships and don’t deserve them. We are horrible mothers. If we only looked like a super model our husbands would love us more. If our houses were cleaners if the world can see, that would make us feel smooch better. Wow. I have definitely felt a few of these on nights we are in a hurry and I warm up left over pizza from the night before. Even though that is pretty good. Smile.

Erase all that and just stop! You are good enough. You are worthy. You are not lazy. You are pretty enough and qualified for that job and committed and all the above. We need to start looking at ourselves as Jesus sees us not as the world sees us. If we continue to look at tv, social media, magazines ect. to measure up we will never be good enough. Ever. Simple as that.

Love abounds from many places in our lives and its not usually from comparing ourselves to others we see on Instagram or face book or twitter or snapchat or any other platform. Whatever you use. We get Love from our Heavenly Father. Period. Let God’s goodness and grace shelter you and comfort you on days you feel like you can’t get up. Allow his love to surround you and be still. Know that things will be okay. Its okay to have off days as long as you don’t park there. Keep moving forward. He wants to give you so much more than you can imagine. 

So, let me end with this verse:

Ephesians 2:10

For we are Gods masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.


Now remember, whatever you are faced with today, Gods got you. Girl, you gotta get up!

Love ya,


Are you playing the game of comparison? Sun, 23 Jul 2017 19:05:38 +0000

I know there are  more than a dozen times that I have compared myself to another woman, friend, stranger, neighbor, even that tall lady at church who seems to have it all together as she comes strolling in with husband and children in tow. All of them perfectly dressed like all of their laundry was washed and pressed at the local dry cleaners. And then I can hear the pastors voice off in the distance, and it helps me to refocus, and I have that sinking feeling as if who am I to judge and especially here in church.

It’s an awful feeling. I can remember telling myself I’m just as loved as she is even though my life may be a rambling mess. When I think about it, how much do I really know about that “other” woman anyway? I don’t know her inside and out, maybe her family had a fight on the way to church and now they are all smiling like everything’s fine. I don’t walk in her shoes daily or know her struggles and pain, maybe she just lost a job. I’m not sitting with her to rejoice in her achievements or cry with her over her struggles? How about where she was born or raised, her parents or lack of, hardships she’s overcame, her choices in life that she has made or regrets, college or career choices. I don’t know how she feels about her body image or what she loves or dislikes about herself. What she would change if she could. And on and on…

My point is that we compare ourselves to others who we “think” have it all together and they are really trying to get through the day such as all of us. Getting to know other women we can help and encourage is so comforting to my soul like a hot cup of tea and a blanket on a rainy day. We will not have everything in common but I think you will be surprised just how much we do.

Life throws so much at you that having someone who understands can make all the difference. There is also something comforting about picking up the phone and calling a girlfriend who you can talk to and you know she will just listen, no judgments, and may even utter a “me too” once in a while and vise versa.


For it is not the one who commends himself who is approved, but the one whom the Lord commends. 

2 Corinthians 2:18


With this said, our opinion of ourselves and frankly of others doesn’t really matter. Praising the Lord and doing whats right by Him should be our first and only concern. Lets look at this from another standpoint.

How about comparing yourself to another and placing yourself above what you perceive of that other woman? Ouch! As if I have all this and that and she doesn’t and I’m better and she’s not and she probably doesn’t even blah, blah, blah. Right, again who are we? But, again I’ve been there. Why, is the question to myself…Why do I do this? Why do I even go there with my thoughts? Why do I feel I have the higher ground to feel, think, or ponder. Have you ever stopped and asked yourself the same question? WHAT IF THE NEXT TIME WE FELT THIS WAY, WE WENT UP TO HER AND GAVE A COMPLIMENT. Any compliment we felt suiting and honest. Asked her name and started a conversation. Oh my goodness, so much love can come out of that instead of jealousy or hate.


Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up the one in need and bringing grace to those who listen. 

Ephesians 4:29


You are loved by Jesus. He is your creator and I can not say enough about that to you. Comparison steels joy each and every time. Don’t allow it. Period. End of story. Each time you fell as though you are being attacked by the enemy remind yourself of this and Whose you are. You are a child of the king.

We can do this together, I’m praying for you.


There is strength in numbers Tue, 27 Jun 2017 16:55:47 +0000

I’m sure you have heard this before, I had but up until a few years ago I didn’t really know what this meant. What kind of strength? So, I was this saying that I wasn’t able to have enough strength on my own? It really took a few desperate situations for me to begin to fully become aware the meaning.

First of all, how many times have you said this or told someone this who was going through a hard or difficult season? Lets pray about it, there is strength in numbers. (Eccl. 4:9-12). 

One afternoon, I had a call from a friend that had experienced some very bad news from her doctor and was scared out of her mind. She proceeded to tell me the situation and rationalize what she thought her future would look like. I listened. There was silence and then she went on to say how could it be, I’m too young, I don’t know what I’m going to do. I listened still with very clear hearing, but couldn’t really relate to what she was saying. I’ve never experienced a situation such as this however, I wanted to be there to do what I could.

I stopped her and let her know first of all that I was there whenever she needed to talk. I told her that its okay to feel the way she’s feeling and be angry at God and/or the world. And finally, that we needed to pray about it because there is strength in numbers and also that God is still in the miracle working business.

So, As we sat there I prayed for her wisdom, her strength to go through whatever process was ahead, and peace to know that God is in control of the situation and has already written and ordered her steps long ago. Sometimes, prayer can make a person feel relieved immediately and other times it will take days, months, and its all on Gods timing. Prayer is not always immediate. It is a daily journey. It is a part of life. It becomes who you are. Special talks with Jesus everyday asking those tough questions that we don’t understand. He hears us and has all the answers. Certain answers are revealed when we ask and others may not be for years, while others never.

Regardless, there is strength in numbers. I’m thankful that she had family to support her and go with her to her medical appointments. Family is really special and needed when a member faces an unexpected health scare or illness. Can any of you relate to this part of the story?

I went through a really horrible divorce many years ago and my friends who were there day in and day out until the end can tell you they feel they went through it with me. I am so thankful for them and really appreciate their time, prayers, shoulders, and long talks. I can honestly say that I know there is strength in numbers. Jesus held my hand and walked every step of the way (Psalm 25:5) and I put my total trust in him.

I dont always get it right and turn to Jesus everytime I know I should. I run to that friend who has been there, I call my husband and complain about the latest thing going on, I am also guilty of calling a family member who I feel can make a difference in whatever it is I’m going through. And not to say that all of this is false, however Jesus should be our first priority for prayer. Then, gather a group of girls and talk it our, pray it out, express your anger or sadness or hopes and dreams because thats what we do, right ladies, If we can’t be honest and open with those closest to us then we need to find a new place to belong. Without judgement or insecurity because we get enough of this out in this rough world.

So, today I want to encourage you to know that there is strength in numbers. Whatever you are facing or walking through or about to face and don’t know it, gather those few around your table, over a cup of coffee, or outside in the backyard while the kids play and be you. Find hope and strength, you deserve it, you are worth it, and you are not alone. We all need this at one point of another. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for prayers, regardless of that messy bun and sweats 2 sizes too big, and a sink full of dishes. No one is looking, and vulnerability is apart of the process. True friends won’t care and will probably even step in to help, let them.

A new command I give you: Love one another as I have loved you, so you must love one another.

John 13:34

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

Romans 12:10

If you need prayer for a certain circumstance you are facing, please leave me a comment so we can be in prayer together.

Love ya sister,



Top four podcasts I’m loving right now. Tue, 06 Jun 2017 01:30:00 +0000

So if I could see a show of hands, who listens to podcasts? I am loving many of them right now and usually listen while I’m in the shower, driving, at home cleaning, exercising, or right before bed. So much information packed inside of these podcasts relating to life, motherhood, Jesus, business, travel, marriage, children, and tons of inspiration. 

I want to share with you whats on my list in hopes that I can inspire you to start listening as well. Podcasts are a great way to learn information in a short period of time especially when you don’t have time to read or for many, just don’t enjoy reading.

  1. Hello Mornings- Hosted by Kat Lee and Heather MacFadyen- I like to start my days off listening to this podcast because its fresh, light, and helps with morning routine. Ah, hello who doesn’t need help with that? Right now they are discussing Morning study of the Parables of Christ. Each podcast is only 5-6 minutes long and discusses parables, bible verses to refer to, questions to ponder, and actionable steps we can take. If you want to get closer to Jesus and don’t where to start, love the Bible but don’t know what to read, this is a great beginning. Each week, just try to increase your time alone with Jesus and make it personal and yours.
  2. Build Your Tribe- Hosted by Charlene Johnson-I took Chalene’s Online Marketing Impact Academy class last year and it made a huge difference in the way I started my business and now run my business. Marketing, emails, time management, social media, domain names, websites, and so much more knowledge I gained. I can’t say enough about her and her team. She is wonderful. If you own a business, want to start a business, or are curious about what she does (besides teach Pyo and other nutritional/motivational/fitness videos) check out her podcasts. I promise she is worth every minute.
  3. The Simple Show- Hosted by Tsh Oxenreider- She discusses books, home, travel, and more. She has a few co-hosts and they also discuss summer reading, food questions, how to find cheap tickets, staple wardrobe pieces, and in case you haven’t heard about Tsh’s book, At Home In The World, its a must read. Her and her husband along with their 3 children traveled the globe for a year and she talks about everything from where they went, where they slept, how they organized their backpacks, survived without internet, airports and traveling with small children, and also lets us the listener in on a few places they lived and what it was like. This podcast is fun, entertaining, and very interesting for a person who loves to travel and may or may not quite be ready. She explains how you don’t have to wait until your children are grown and gone before you take the leap.
  4. The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey- Hosted by Jamie Ivey- Now this one is a favorite of mine and I’ve been listening to this one about 6 months. She has some pretty amazing women on her podcast. Its an all ladies podcast and the only man allowed on there, which she has interviewed him, is her husband. She’s has sol0-preneur moms, mothers who own multiple business, foster mothers, single women, christian ladies, speakers, authors, pastors wives, widows, and just good hearted women who want to help others with their stories and journeys. Some of her guests have been Angie Smith, Bianca Olthoff, Ali Worthington, Lauren Kennedy, Lisa-Jo Baker, Tsh Oxenreider, Lisa Bevere, and Emily Ley to name a very few. Each week I look forward to listening to Jamie’s podcast as she is funny, serious, makes me think, cry, reflect, and relate. This podcast is one I always recommend to women of all walks of life. She makes me feel as if we were right there together drinking a cup of coffee with a few girlfriends speaking on small things, big things, and everything in between. A must listen!

There ya have it. My top list of podcasts. I have a few others on my list of possibilities-if-I-have-a-little -more-time-I-would-love-to-listen-to-podcasts, but I can’t listen to too many at once because I will get distracted. But let me tell you, podcasting is my new favorite way to learn, listen, and enjoy.

Leave me your feedback and let me know what you think of these if you happen to check these out. AND, I would love recommendations on what YOU are listening to right now.

Blessings sister and Happy listening,



Why I’m journaling daily for a month. Fri, 02 Jun 2017 05:44:43 +0000

The month of June I have decided to set a few personal goals. One being I am eliminating coffee, which I’m not really a daily coffee drinker anyway, I prefer hot tea, and the other, I’m adding daily journaling.

First of all, I love journals and if you look through my book shelf or bed side table you will see about 6 at any given time. Did I mention I LOVE journals. All colors, lined and unlined, small and big, my favorite is my solid gold one. If I’m honest, I could say I collect them to look good, not to use. Anyone else have a passion for journals?

So, I decided its time to start putting these to use and journal everyday in the month of June. I plan to write down my daily thoughts, actions, lists, quotes, sayings, things the kids do that I want to remember. The way I plan to do it for those of you interested is to spend 30-45 minutes daily in the morning before my house gets crazy and put pen to paper. Thats it. I plan to writing down things from the prior day, current events and thoughts, and even future plans. With every thing thats going on right now in my life, I could use a daily journaling sesh.

I also plan to use this time with God to be honest and share my thoughts, prayers, concerns, and praises. I do read my Bible daily and spend a little time with Jesus but journaling is on my list of improvements. I try to journal in the mornings with my quiet time however, I do struggle. So this time with a little more time and intentionality, I pray I can accomplish this goal.

Blogging is a great way for me to put my thoughts down for others to read. Im a newly at blogging but I am having fun. I never knew that sharing your thoughts coulda be so fun. I’d love to start my own podcast, okay were getting off topic, but I feel my posts are a little too serious all the time and would love to put a little more flair and personality into what I talk about. Personality that can’t be read through a post, hence why the podcast. Okay, back to topic. Thoughts?

Since I’m giving up coffee in the mornings I will have my cup of green tea, a journal, and a quiet place. Wheres you quiet place? My quiet place is my living room. I have a special chair I love to sit in whether were gathered watching tv, I’m reading a great book, or Im sitting there writing a new post such as the case right now. A special place is necessary because it gives me clarity and helps me keep the area clean of clutter, Lord knows I can’t think when that happens. I want this place to be special because its where I will spend a lot of hours reading and writing. I also feel that God speaks to me here. Hearing from God is such an important aspect to a lot of the topics I discuss in my blogs.

Speaking of blogging, I would like to know how often you blog or publish posts. I started blogging about 6 months ago and ideally I like to blog one to two times a week. Most of my blogs are about faith, family, and life. Theres just something about being able to express yourself honestly, through your words, and not caring what others have to say. Its just you, God, and your thoughts. I love it!

Leave me your ideas or thoughts about journaling, if you journal, what kind of journal you prefer, and how often you journal. Share your thoughts regarding how journaling makes you feel. I think it would be fun to create a journaling club. As ladies we are always looking for a way to get together for coffee or tea. Grab a journal, a cup of Joe, and a pen. Play some relaxing music and write until your little hearts content with the option of sharing. Fun!

One more thing, what are some of your favorite journals to use? I buy the ones with motivational sayings on the cover, or  I choose the ones with really bright colors. The best ones I’ve found are at Marshall’s and Barnes and Nobles Bookstore. Can someone say clearance! Go out and buy a nice journal and just get started.

P.S.S. Follow me on Instagram and tag me in the pics of your journals. If this is a goal for you to I’d love to encourage and inspire you as well.

Heres to happy journaling.



What are some of the lies you are believing? Mon, 08 May 2017 23:06:06 +0000

There are many things in life I wanted to be as a little girl. A doctor, a world traveler, a nurse. I became the latter, and I love what I do. A nurse brings so much life to others, and it makes me smile just to know that I can brighten others days by simply being present in their time of need. Speaking of nurses, Its Nurses Week. To all of you nurses reading this, You are Special!

As I’ve grown up, developed more of a relationship with Jesus, married, and had children, its been interesting to learn more about myself and the lists and thoughts that linger in my mind. Staying as positive as I can most of the time is my way of choice, but hey, we are all human and now and then lies and negative thoughts creep in and the enemy attacks. Yikes. Yes, he is lurking just waiting for you to have one of those days that you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and just dog dead tired. Relate?

As of recently, I am a work from home wife and mother raising my kiddos, they are all in school, with several activities, my daughter is graduating this month, my boys play basketball and each an instrument, and participate in basketball training 2 days a week as well. Not to mention, my daughter just started working and my husband works full time as well. Were in the process of looking for her a car, but lets just say that my part time job is mom’s taxi service. Okay, who else spends more than half their day in the car or driving to/from somewhere?

The last three weeks, I’ve been taking a ladies bible study at church and we are studying a book called Lies Women Believe. I love this title and that just resonated with me so much that I couldn’t pass up the study. Can I just tell you that wow, it is intense and the things I’ve learned in just a short time are really speaking to me. The book is broken down into chapters each labeled a different topic and lie of what we as women may believe past, present, or future. Currently we are on chapter five so I can only share with you she lies/truths up to this chapter. (You are more than welcome to purchase it for you and a friend. This would make a great coffee date discussion book.)

Let me give you the chapter titles to give you a few examples of some of these lies.

  1. Lies Women Believe About God
  2. Lies Women Believe About Themselves
  3. Lies Women Believe About Sin
  4. Lies Women Believe About Priorities
  5. Lies Women Believe About Marriage
  6. Lies Women Believe About Children
  7. Lies Women Believe About Emotions
  8. Lies Women Believe About Circumstances

A lie from chapter one Lies Women Believe About God you may believe is “God Is Not Really Good.” Have you ever struggled with this? The truth, God is good, and everything He does is good. We start thinking that God is only good when our circumstances are going our way, but the truth is He is good all the time no matter what we are going through. -Psalm 31:19

Another one from chapter one is “God’s Ways Are Too Restrictive.” The truth is Gods ways are best. I know there are times when I feel my way is best, how about you? No matter how hard I try, my ways don’t work out. I wonder why. Jesus always knows best and his ways are always for my good. He is so faithful. -James 1:19-27

From chapter two, Lies Women Believe About Themselves, one that I see and hear a lot about is “Physical Beauty Matters More Than Inner Beauty.”  I think as women we want to look good for our spouse, significant other, we apply make-up, we dress just right, we apply false eyelashes, lipstick, and so on. We obsess about our hair and take several pics to get the right one. Not that there is anything wrong with any of these, but when it becomes our #1 priority and we lose sight of God then it is a problem. Physical beauty is temporal and fleeting. -Proverbs 31:30

One last lie I will share with you is from chapter five, Lies Women Believe About Marriage, “It Is My Responsibility To Change My Mate.”  How many of us say, if only my husband would change such and such then we would get along better? I can say there are things about my husband that I would like to see change, however after discussions and knowing God makes each of us the way we are for a particular reason, it gives me great peace to know its not my job to change the way he is and vise versa. Here’s a quote from the book:

A godly life and prayer are a wife’s two greatest means of influencing her husband’s life. – 1 Peter 3:1-4

It is far more effective for a woman to appeal to the Lord to change her husband than to try to exert pressure on him directly. -Proverbs 17:1

These two verses really spoke to me as a wife because I want the best for my husband and want to keep Christ the center of our relationship. I pray the same for all of you momma’s out there who are married and searching for change.

So ladies, I pray you take some time to read through these lies/truths again and look up the verses. I know I only gave you a few but I do think they will give you some truth and peace. We have to fight for our families and build long lasting relationships in our homes keeping Christ at the center. God is so faithful and he wants to do amazing things in your life. Right now. Right where you are. Trust Him today. Pray and ask God to reveal any lies that you are believing to be true.

Love ya sister,



P.S. I love reading your comments, so leave me one and lets stay in touch.


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How you can be that friend others need. Wed, 19 Apr 2017 22:31:44 +0000

The world is so full of things that keep us occupied, out of touch with reality, and fill our minds with distractions. The more technology we are exposed to it seems the less we feel connected. Which doesn’t really make sense.

In the past, I can remember calling a girlfriend up and asking her to meet for coffee or lunch. We would agree we could both squeeze in an hour and then head back to mommy duties. Do any of you remember meeting face to face with your besties, or maybe you do this now. I would try to check in with a few friends at least weekly, and vise versa.

For some reason, I have felt less connected these past few months and it seems we are having more and more piled on our plates. Which for a season, sometimes that happens. Writing a book, creating a journal, (on my list) volunteering at your kids school, cleaning out closets and getting ready for the summer. All thats cool, but when too much time passes, I begin to long that deep intimate connection with my girlfriends and call in desperation like “meet me now!” Of course we talk often on the phone but to me that’s not really the same.

So, how many of you are with me here? Its natural to crave connection. I am a hugger, so if we ever meet in person, get ready for me to hug your neck.

Here are three things I’ve found that can help you be THAT friend instead of always pitying yourself and saying “whats in it for me” or having that “how will this benefit me mentality.”

Be Intentional 

Intentionally call or text your favorite girls, not all the ones stored in your phone, of course, but the ones you think of when something exciting, special, or juicy happens. Those few who get you! Send them a hello, thinking of you, whatcha doing, have a great day, a scripture quote, a song to listen to for encouragement, a joke or something funny, or just an I love you. This makes the world of difference. I’ve been doing this as well as receiving these from others and I tell you they are usually on point with what I’m going through. Jesus knows. He will speak to us through a telegram if he has to.

Schedule it in

Schedule a time to meet monthly if you can. This way you can see each other face to face and really get a sense of how that person is feeling. Lets be honest, we are all great at hiding behind the phone and can easily be distracted with other things. You can also pray for each other, lend a shoulder to cry on, and always give a hug which, like I said, is a must. High fives are always in order as well. I believe this initiates and creates community, so invite new friends who long for connection as well. It doesn’t have to be long or expensive, but it must be in person, this is non-negotiable.

Remember the dates

Last, always remember anniversaries, birthdays of your friends and their families. By family, I mean their kids and husband if these apply. Send a card, a small gift can be left on their doorstep or dropped off at their job. Hand written cards are the best and most appreciated. (maybe this is just my opinion). These little things may seem little to you or I, but to that mother who is struggling with the children in the mornings and barely made it out of the house in time and now she’s late for work, it matters. The one who’s dealing with insecurity issues after having a child and trying to lose weight, wondering if her husband will love her the same, that will be so appreciated. The wife who is trying to find her place, when she’s married to a man who’s job requires him to travel and he’s always away from the home, leaving her feeling alone and desperate for attention from her husband, your thoughtfulness is so timely.

All of these I mentioned, I was once that woman. Its tough, lonely, desperation sets in, and you feel as though you can’t do this life. You want another life. It’s too much to handle, and you would trade it for a slice of easy.

If you’ve been there, you can relate. How encouraging would it be to hear from a friend who wants to meet for coffee, or receive a text during a major breakdown? Ladies, its so important to encourage each other through this process. We are not alone and Jesus designed all of us to build bridges not close doors. Love on others, share stories, shed tears with others and show compassion. Life is short and we can all make that other momma feel special by just being more intentional with a few moments of our time.

I encourage you to do this today. Stop what you are doing, think of a special friend, and send a text or call her. Invite, or just genuinely talk about life. As you start to receive these texts and calls as well, you will begin to see the impact a few words can make, at the right time.

Can’t wait to hear from you.

Love you sista, Tyra

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How to feel Chosen, not set apart. Mon, 10 Apr 2017 03:03:46 +0000

Have you ever felt like you’ve been set apart? I know I have. When I was a little girl, I loved playing with three other best friends outside and we would laugh and make up games that would keep us busy all day. There was one day specifically I remember that they stopped talking to me. I looked out my window and could see them at the park playing and running around together, it made me a little jealous.

At the moment, my mother was not allowing me to go outside because we were on our way somewhere and she was afraid I would get dirty. So, as I sat there imagining what they were talking about, I started to cry. A few moments later I could hear them running past my apartment window so I went over and raised it just enough to yell out. “Hey girls, over here!” They looked up at me and kept running not even so much as a nod in my direction. My feelings were hurt and I slammed the window. Why would they ignore me I thought to myself. Just a few days ago we were all holding hands skipping here and there.

Well, when I was able to see them face to face they told me that they just didn’t want to play with me anymore. I wanted to know if it was something I had done or said. At the age of 9, I really wasn’t sure how to handle a disagreement, right. I mean, its not like I was an expert at relationships at this age. So, I was frustrated and angry as I turned around and went home. My mother could tell something was wrong but I never really spoke to her about it. I was more of a child who kept things to myself and would rather deal wit it on my own, whatever that meant.

There are many other instances as a child I was treated this way by my so called friends and others. I’ve tried not to let it hurt me but at the same time, lets be honest, it hurts. Okay, who’s still with me here. Have any of you ever dealt with feeling left out?

As an adult, situations like this are still hurtful. I find myself questioning similar scenarios such as, “why didn’t I get an invitation to that party? Why didn’t my kids get invited to that get together with the neighborhood kids? There was an after work get together to celebrate a birthday, but I wasn’t aware.”

If you are honest, I bet there have been a few of these occasions in your life as well. Its okay, were all human and its just natural to want to get invited to everything. Even if we can’t attend, its just the mere fact that we were thought of.

How about you? You’ve been told to work extra hours even though it doesn’t fit your schedule. Given notice that you were going to be laid off with a few other employees even though you’ve been there for awhile. How about that doctor visit and being informed that you can’t have children when there’s nothing you and your husband want more. How about feeling as though what you do for a living has no impact in this life, and you feel so small by “just” being a stay at home mother. How about “just” leading a bible study when you feel qualified to speak on a big stage. Writing a blog when y0u feel you should have a #1 best selling book on the shelf at the local bookstore. There are many times we feel diminished that we are doing small(er) work for the kingdom instead of where we feel we should be.

Chosen not set apart.

God rewards a faithful heart. He is capable of taking you places you can’t even dream of. He can do amazing things with your health, your career, your marriage, your addictions, your relationships. For example, that “just” a stay at home mother has been equipped to lead those small children. Those many hours spent reading to them may spark a book lover and possible writer, who may write a book that thousands of others will read and therefore impact lives. They may grow up to be a teacher who spends endless hours teaching children that they are special and one day end up getting a Best teacher of the year award. When one of these children returns and tells them, “you were the only one who believed in me.” And the domino affect just keeps going. You never know what the full impact of your decisions can have and the trajectory of your life and others, it can totally change when you decide to follow the plans God has for your life.

Chosen not set apart. 

I am a work from home mother and have been chosen by God to have an inspirational heart that motivates others and is gentle, loving, and compassionate. I try to instill this in my children so they see these in me and follow my lead. When they see someone hurting, homeless, or less-than they will have compassion to give, lead, pray, and inspire. Not just walk by, walk away, or say too bad for you.

I want to encourage you to change your mindset and start thinking what is the assignment God has for me(you). You have been Chosen. How can I be obedient toward giving him glory in everything that I do. How can I look at situations as being Chosen instead of set apart. Do this for one day. Tomorrow, when something happens to you that you may feel is unfair, STOP.  Tell yourself I have not been set apart, I have been Chosen and see if that doesn’t do something to your emotions. Say it out loud. Repeat it.

I’m with ya on this one. I have my days where I totally feel set apart. Lets do this together!!

God used many ordinary people from the Bible and sets them up to be set apart. He will do that for you and I as well.

Romans 12:2

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. 

I’m rooting for you sister,



I’m not sure how I’m holding up. Mon, 27 Mar 2017 18:39:21 +0000

Life is amazing. It’s almost April and the year is going by so quickly. So, how are you holding up? Me, I’ve had a few times this year already I felt like I was losing. But, as I’m learning you just roll with the punches and keep going. My daughter is graduating in May, and I’m not really sure how I’m doing. Helping her plan for the future had been a long haul and some days I’m just not sure how I’m holding up.

I know there are days you probably also want to give up, throw in the towel, cry over spilt milk, you feel like you will never tackle that mound of laundry or that pile of dirty dishes in the sink. Flat tire, unpaid bills, sick children, strained back, and the list goes on. Life goes by so quickly and looking back time has flown. Have you ever seen that movie Frozen? If you have young daughters of any age, the answer is probably yes. Elsa and her sister go through a great deal of trials which they have to Let Go.

I love the perspective about letting things go.  One thing I’ve learned is that you can either accept things or try to wiggle your way out of a situation, but if it’s God’s will for your life there is nothing you can do. Nothing will keep you from the destiny that Jesus has for your life. Nothing.

We have this discussion in our home regards to college after high school, and there are mixed emotions. I went to college, my husband went to college, my older son graduated from a University, but my daughter is struggling with what she wants to do after high school. She does want to attend college, however she is struggling to narrow down a field of study. I have told her that God has a plan for her life and if she holds onto that she can never go wrong. She has time to think about it and not everyone knows the first day on campus.

As a parent, its tough to see our children feel lost or wander. We want to provide them with all the answers in life and prepare them to go in any direction that they feel they want to go.  I pray everyday that God would allow me to be the best mother that I know she needs and He has to take care of everything else. We honestly aren’t directing anything if we think about it, this is Gods play and we are just the actors. He walks before us and I know he is is preparing her path in this life. It is amazing to see her growth spiritually and emotionally over the last few years.

Letting go is something I’m working on daily. Letting go of the past, present, and things of the future that God would have me to let go of. Its difficult at times however I have to remember that he is in control and has all things planned for the good of his people who love him.

I’m blown away by the vastness of his great love for me and my family. Looking back we have never been without and everything we have, we owe it all to Jesus. I teach my children to understand that they are nothing without him and always seek His way for their life. As we do this, nothing can separate from the love and plans that he has for us. 

So mommas, there will be a time that your daughters will be off to college as well or on another adventure that will lead them into another chapter of their lives. Pray for them. Now and forever. That they may always keep Jesus first and encourage the people in their lives to do the same. Talk with them and let them know that no matter what direction they choose you will always love them and support them.

Growing up, I never received the support form my mother that I show toward my children. She was a single mother sometimes working two jobs and was always tired. I was left home a lot, to fend for myself, take care of my sister who is 9 years younger than I, and even help prepare dinner for the family. I remember those days well. They were rough and honestly when I tell my children how I was raised they have a hard time believing me. Its hard for mu children to understand that I needed to be so responsible for all of that at the tender age of 12. My life growing up brought many challenges for sure, but I wouldn’t change them because I learned so much.

As a result, I became that mom who said I never wanted to raise my children the way I was raised. I want to provide them with more support than I was given. I want to show them that a working mother can still be there for her children and maintain a household.  I want to instill in them the value of working hard and family without sacrificing family values. These things are very important to me as a woman, mother, and as a Christian foremost. (I must add here that I am not against chores and helping around the house.)

I have a few friends who have been through this process of letting go of their children as they grow up and boy have they given me lots of support. A quick phone call can give me a weeks worth of information and guidance. I’m so thankful for them during this season in my life. Do you have a support team you can lean on when times get rough? I pray you do.

Reading my daily bible this morning, I came across this verse

Psalms 16:11

You will show me the path of life,

in your presence is fullness of joy;

at your right hand are pleasures for evermore. 

In His presence is fullness of joy. This really spoke to me and I cried when I read this. In His presence. Its amazing the way Gods word can speak to you. Just one sentence, one word, can have a profound meaning. It also spoke to me because its what I needed to hear at that particular time.

It gave me such security and I felt as though Jesus was looking down and speaking right to me. He was. Don’t worry Tyra, I will take care of your daughter as I have taken care of you. Thank you Lord!

Today, my wish is that we can support each other in prayer. You are not alone.