Dealing with loss during a season.


I can remember about 5 years ago, I stopped at a store to shop and had my three children with me. At the time, they were ages 13 and my twins were 7. I was supposed to run into the store rather quickly, grab what I needed, and run back out. But, if you are a parent I’m sure you can relate when I say things don’t always go as planned.

One of my children has a tendency to go his own direction and often without telling anyone. Today, he decided to do that. After about 5 minutes, I noticed he wasn’t in the next few aisles over and panic sat in. I called out to his brother and sister and they said they had no idea where he went. Off we all go searching through the store and calling out his name. No reply. At this point, my heart was starting to sink as I thought of all the possibilities that could have happened and all the places he could be hiding.

The store was not very big and as I watched others walk in and out of the store I thought to myself, Please God, I hope he did not walk off with someone else. As I gathered up the other 2 and told them lets go look outside, a lady entered the store and asked if I was looking for a young boy. I guess she could sense the panic of my voice and see the terror on my face. I said “yes, where is he?” And what came next really scared me. She said he was running down the street along side of the store headed in the direction we lived.

We ran to the car, drove home, and there he was, inside with his father. He was almost in tears and said that he looked for us but couldn’t find us, so he ran home where he knew he was safe. “Oh thank you Jesus.” I grabbed him and hugged him and told him that I would never leave him anywhere and how much he was loved. We were all shaking and could hardly believe what just happened. This story we will all remember forever, however, it didn’t take long for us to resume things as normal that day.

Here’s the hard part. Life is not always as easy as this situation. We experience many losses in life that we don’t get over. People and situations don’t change or come back. They are gone forever and now we must find a way of coping with them. Is there a loss you are experiencing today? Or have you experienced a loss in the past you are still struggling with? I know there have many instances I’ve needed to run safely into the arms of my earthly father to feel safe, but I know the only one that could really take away the pain is my heavenly father.

A loss can be a divorce, the loss of a child through miscarriage, adoption or even IVF, loss of finances from a job, a family pet, loss of a house or a car, or some may be experiencing a loved one that is lost and needs salvation through Jesus. A loss doesn’t have to be a big, huge sign with flashing lights surrounding it to be damaging and extremely hurtful. Everyone experiences loss differently and what may seem small to one, may be surmountable to another.

I experienced a divorce 4 years ago, and knew for many months prior it was coming. We tried to make it work for about 6 months prior, through counseling, prayer, read books, talking to others who have gone through a divorce, couples that have been married for many years, and made lists of things to work on together but the result was a divorce that was mutual. It hurt. For a long time. My close friends helped me through the grieving precess and understand that things happen out of our control. But through it all, we must trust God and know that he is working everything out for our good even when we don’t feel him working.

Today friend, I want to encourage you with a few things. I have experienced many more losses in my life, however, one thing I know for sure is that Gods love is not based on your current situation. God is good all the time and you need to believe that. God said life would be hard. You will have trials. You will experience turmoil. But remember, so did he. He knows exactly what it feels like to be left out, hurt, picked on, hated, disliked, lonely, and disappointed. Take your cares to him because we are not meant to bear them alone. He will provide and care for you like no other during your season of loss.

There is everlasting peace in the arms of our heavenly father.

I leave you with these words of encouragement,

“These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulations; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

John 16:33

Yet, indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith.

Philippians 3:8-9



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